What to Do When You Need Change to Stick...

What’s wrong with me?

Why can’t I stick with this?

Why am I still battling the thought that I don’t belong here, despite my success?


Do you ever ask these questions?  You get frustrated with an area where you just can't make progress, and you feel like you've tried EVERYTHING.

You've set goals. You've given yourself reasons. You’ve talked yourself into feeling like you belong at the table.

And it works... to a point.

But then it doesn't.  

What's wrong with me? Why can't I change this? 

You're tired of this ongoing problem.  

You know you are capable, but then why does something keep stopping you?

You read books like crazy.  Podcasts?  Oh yeah, you do that too. 

Trying endlessly to change the patterns you see in yourself that don't serve you ... the ones that cause self sabotage, or worse, periods of just 'checking out'. 

But you want more.  You crave that ALIVE feeling. You don't want 'average'.  

In fact, to you, 'average' is a dirty word.

What if I told you there was something you hadn't tried yet?  What if it was available to you right here, right now. 

What if that old pattern could be broken for good --and you didn't have to try SO HARD for behavior and thoughts that empower + strengthen you + create fantastic results.

What if you COULD be the high achiever you are .... consistently.  What if you weren't afraid of losing your edge?

As an Executive Coach, my expertise is in helping amazing people like you with the struggles and challenges that come with leadership.


With my help, you CAN accomplish that ‘next level’ thing you dream about.  

My sweet spot is in helping you identify what the block is that you keep bumping up against. I’ll show you how you can use SCIENCE to get a different result. 

My process is NOT about *trying harder* and pushing through your resistance.  

It's not about talking about your past and me convincing you to think about it differently, like in therapy. 

Nope, not at all. 

Instead, it's about inviting you to experience change from deep inside that translates into you acting differently... WITHOUT so much effort.  

These science backed and proven coaching techniques are
fast
+ extremely effective
+ lasting.

Do you hear angels singing right now reading this?  Cause you should!

I just gave you a "get out of jail free card".  

I just told you your old patterns and habits AREN'T YOUR FAULT. 

There's hope that you didn't know existed.

Yeah babes!  Cue the dancing and the big sighs of relief.

Wondering if my clients have experienced change like this? 

Hear what Lori had to say...
"Leila was my Coach about a year ago, and I continue to feel the positive effects. I decided to use her services to help me overcome a fear that was impacting an otherwise pretty darn good life. She was extremely professional, warm, and obviously knew what she was doing, and....it worked!

She spent time to get to know me and took me through her signature program, and a year later, I can tell you the fear is truly not there, and it has truly helped restore my own confidence. I highly recommend. It was worth every penny."
 

and Elita ...

"Recently, I met Leila and realized that she might be able to help me overcome some walls I felt like I was hitting in my life which impacted my career tremendously.... 

I never imagined it would be so quick. A few short days later, I had begun a high level of activity in my career and a FEELING of relief and happiness that I haven’t felt in many years!  Since then, I have gone from several weeks of no sales to 16 consecutive weeks of sales, and my closing ratio has more than doubled."


Read more testimonials here


If you're feeling like there's a cement truck blocking you from the progress you know you want in your life, this is me saying...

🎶🎶  hello from the other side.... 🎶🎶


I've been where you are and I found an easy way to change. 

It wasn't as hard as I expected. I was shocked. 

And then I realized EVERYONE needs to know about this.

And that's why I do what I do.  So stop 'kicking the tires' of this coaching thing and let's talk about what it could look like FOR YOU.

Let’s chat about what coaching could do for you. This call is free --and we can talk briefly about what's holding you up and I'll tell you straight up if I can help you with that.  


About the author, Leila Ansart: I help leaders + entrepreneurs to work through the challenges that come with leadership, while finding fulfillment, freedom and support as they grow.

Start your journey with the FREE 5 Day Challenge to end your limiting self-talk.




Women's Workshop - Speaker for Women In Business Goal Setting event

Leila Ansart speaks at event for female business owners and executives. Jacksonville, FL



On January 17, 2019, I was honored to address a group of female business owners and executives about their vision for their year. These female leaders were looking for more than inspiration, they wanted actionable plans and advice.

Many of the attendees were familiar with the importance of setting goals, but few had taken the time to do so in an effective way.

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At this hands on workshop, participants learned how and why their unconscious mind impacts their projections and goals, and how to define a priority for the next quarter in business. In addition, we reviewed SMART goals, adding my signature W to the more well known goal-setting acronym.

This event for female leaders combined learning new skills with planning time, all in one place to finally G E T  I T  D O N E. Setting goals, getting specific, and deciding their focus for 2019.

Participants reported that they felt inspired, motivated and organized after the event.

 
“It was such a great workshop! I loved the opportunity to create focus. I’ve always known the ‘SMART’ plan, but didn’t know how to make it have an “umph” - to be effective. This allowed me to create an action plan that allows me to think differently and accomplish the reverse-engineering action that I needed. Thank you Leila!”
— Belinda, Business Owner
 

Here’s a preview of this event.

 Attendees were treated to appetizers and wine to enjoy while brainstorming and mind-mapping their business focus for the next 6 months. In addition, upbeat and motivating music was played that added to the amazing vibe of the evening.

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Women’s inspirational speaker Leila Ansart shared that there’s an art to setting goals and defining which few you’ll focus on.

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Attendees engage with women’s inspirational speaker Leila Ansart.

Missed this group workshop but want to schedule a

'planning sess' with me?


About the author, Leila Ansart: I help leaders + entrepreneurs to work through the challenges that come with leadership, while finding fulfillment, freedom and support as they grow. I do this through speaking engagements, 1-1 and group coaching.

Start your journey with the FREE 5 Day Challenge to end your limiting self-talk.

3 Reasons You SHOULD Get Your Hopes Up

I had an exciting thought last week about a new direction in my business and it was so big - it was SCARY. I felt excitement fill my body and then had the thought, "This is big, Leila, don't get your hopes up just yet."

And I've been mulling over that last sentence for the last week.

WHY shouldn't I get my hopes up?

Why do we say that?  I realized it was an old habit that was not serving me.

Today, I'll share 3 solid reasons why you SHOULD get your hopes up.

Click the video below if you'd like to watch me explain.  (7 minute watch)

Or scroll down if you'd rather read.


Getting your ‘hopes up’ can be a catalyst towards growth and momentum.  It can:

➕ connect you to your creativity

➕ get you IN FLOW (your zone where inspiration flows)

➕ prime your mind to look for opportunities already around you

➕ flood you with feel-good hormones

➕ give you pin-point clarity on your desire map (I explain in the video!)


So let's get to the reasons.


REASON 1:  IT FEELS GOOD!

When we allow ourselves to think about and consider something that we're excited about, feel-good hormones like dopamine, seratonin and endorphins are released in our bodies. The result is we feel happy!

When you feel happy, you are more likely to get in flow (your zone of genius where your inspiration flows) and be more creative, tap into your problem solving abilities, etc.

Why trade out those awesome benefits just to protect ourselves from possible disappointment?  Looking at the risk/reward ratio, feeling happy, creative and on-your-game is much more worth the possible feeling of dissapointment.

 

REASON 2:  IT TRAINS YOUR BRAIN WHAT TO LOOK FOR.

Science shows that when we consider something new (when we stretch our brain past it's habits), we have the capacity to notice opportunities, connections and ideas that were there all along but we couldn't see before.  

By focusing on a goal or idea that excites you, you are training your brain to look for more than what you see right now.  

It's as if you are recalibrating the lens through which you see life towards more opportunities and abundance.

 

REASON 3:  IT GIVES YOU CLARITY ON YOUR DESIRE MAP

Your desire map is a personalized map of what YOU would want to experience, have and be in your life.  It's the things that turn the mundane into the exciting.  It's what takes you from doing what you have to do to what fulfills you at your core.

So many of us are so caught up in "busy" that we lose connection to what makes us happy.  I've worked with countless women who can't figure out what they truly want next in their lives.

You see, if when you notice a desire you have, if when you read of a trip or experience that excites you, and you fearfullly squash down that feeling because it feels too big, too costly, too unreasonable, then you miss out.  You miss the opportunity to experience another layer of clarity as to what will bring you happiness, excitement and fulfillment in your life.

Just like there are points along a map that lead you closer and closer to your destination, these bursts of clarity are those points on your desire map (the path that leads you to your fulfillment and happiness).  Grab those moments and hold them close. 

 

If you find yourself saying "Don't get your hopes up", reconsider if this old saying serves you.  

Instead, use your idea as a catalyst towards a happier life.

 


About the author, Leila Ansart: I help leaders + entrepreneurs to work through the challenges that come with leadership, while finding fulfillment, freedom and support as they grow.

Start your journey with the FREE 5 Day Challenge to end your limiting self-talk.

9 Impactful Books for Female Leaders

I was honored to be a panelist in this last week's AFWA Women's Empowerment Panel Breakfast.

I was joined on stage by 4 other successful women who have built their careers, overcome adversity, figured out how to succeed in what can sometimes seem like a 'man's world' and not lost themselves along the way.

One of my favorite questions from the moderator was about books that have impacted us. I'm a big reader, and it was all I could do to not scribble this whole list out as I was sitting there on stage. (Read my blog post on effective listening - only reason I didn't start writing right then!)

However, I did listen to the video of the event later so I could grab these titles.  And in case you are a book buff like me, I'm sharing the list below.

Here are 9 Impactful Business /Emotional Intelligence Books that you must add to your reading list.

Positive Intelligence: Why Only 20% of Teams and Individuals Achieve Their True Potential AND HOW YOU CAN ACHIEVE YOURS -by Shirzad Chamine

The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results - how to move forward on the big goal and not get lost in all the noise

Daring Greatly, by Brene Brown - How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill

Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg - how your habits impact your life and business

Influence, the Psychology of Persuasion, by Robert Cialdini, PHD

The 5 Second Rule, by Mel Robbins

Reality Based Leadership : Ditch the Drama, Restore Sanity to the Workplace, and Turn Excuses into Results, by CY Wakeman

I can’t wait to hear which is your new favorite! Come share in my Facebook group exclusively for ambitious leaders and entrepreneurs.


About the author, Leila Ansart: I help leaders + entrepreneurs to work through the challenges that come with leadership, while finding fulfillment, freedom and support as they grow.

Start your journey with the FREE 5 Day Challenge to end your limiting self-talk.

The Hidden Power of Labels

Photo by Kelly Sikkema on Unsplash

When my daughter was just 5 years old, she asked me one afternoon while we were driving what we were having for dinner that night.

"Burgers", I told her.

Noooooooooooo, I DON'T want burgers!  She immediately whined.

After thinking for a minute, I said to her, "I changed my mind, we're having flat meatballs instead."

"Yaaaaaaaaaaaay, I LOVE flat meatballs!" was the reply I heard from the backseat.

I could barely contain my laughter.

I was planning the exact same thing for dinner but calling it something different, and it totally worked.

I had a happy kid in the backseat singing to herself about flat meatballs the whole way home.

This funny conversation with my daughter has stuck with me forever.

You see, HOW we label experiences can make such a difference in how we perceive them - even when we know we are consciously re-labeling them.

For example if we look at a challenge at work and label it "ugh not this again" then it's completely disempowering and zaps our energy.

If instead, we come from a mindset of believing that the universe is serving you in some way, it helps us to remember to look for the lessons in our challenges instead.

What are the hidden gems there?  What can we learn that will help us to grow into the people we want to become?

every experience you go through

I coach on this in depth during my free 5 Day Challenge.

Sometimes we go through chapters in our lives when we struggle with believing the world is out to get us, or we say things like "it figures".  Or when good things happen, we're secretly waiting for the other shoe to drop.

This is normal, and can come as a result of a difficult time, a time you've been legit wronged.  And I hear you!  I've been there at times too.

However, in these times, it's pivotal that we check ourselves and check our mindset, otherwise this 'season' can turn into years and years of expecting the worst.

Here are 3 quick steps to changing your 'label' to make it serve you better.

1.  Catch yourself when you slap a label on an experience, a challenge or a conversation.

2.  Look for what you could learn there.

If it's testing your patience, this is an opportunity for you to develop your patience. If it's downright hard, this is your chance to grow your resiliance and determination.

3.  Intentionally change your 'label' to include the opportunity for growth that you recognized in step 2.

Even if you say it through gritted teeth initially, in time the new label will stick with you and help retrain your mind to look for growth opportunities in the midst of challenges.

If you've realized you sometimes struggle with a disempowering mindset and you'd like to grow past that, I invite you to join so many others who are currently doing the the FREE 5 Day Challenge to End Your Limiting Self Talk.


About the author, Leila Ansart: I help female leaders + entrepreneurs to work through the challenges that come with leadership, while finding fulfillment, freedom and support as they grow.

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Client Story - Increased Sales & Doubled Closings + Motivation

You know how it feels when it's ALL on you?

 

Elita does.  She owns her own publication and has to be at her best each day to work her business, sign new clients, grow her following and bring in the income she needs.

 

Last year she hit a slump...

 

She described it as hitting her "stop point".  When she would reach a certain number of sales that month, her motivation would completely drop and suddenly she couldn't get herself to do what she needed to do to continue to sell that month.

 

Have you ever had one of these days, that turns into weeks, and turns into months?

 

It's no fun.  You know you need to get to work, move forward on your projects, and make client calls,

but you.

just.

can't.

 

After much soul searching, Elita still couldn't find a solution. She couldn't go on like this.  Something HAD to change.  She remembered a conversation with someone about hiring a Coach, and decided to try it out for herself.

 

That led her to me.

 

During our coaching sessions, she had several "aha moments" that allowed her to see clearly what her obstacle was.  It was not anything she had considered before.

 

That's the power of having someone completely objective help you in gaining perspective and new strategies.

 

She admittedly was surprised, and didn't expect to identify this particular mindset block.  Then, through guidance and mentorship, she was able to change her mind block into a motivational catapult.

 

As she says, "I was stuck... it never dawned on me that I could get unstuck so quickly... The results were amazing. I went from 7 weeks of no sales to 16 consecutive weeks of sales, and more than doubled my closing ratio too!"

 

Curious?

Hear her story from her personally...

 



Now Elita has been on a several month long success story.

 

Not only has she regained her traction (and then some) in her business, but the motivation changed her actions in her personal life as well.

 

She immediately started sleeping better, and making better choices for her health and diet.  Now several months later, she is on a journey of success that she loves, and feels happy, motivated and confident about her future.

 

Ready for 1-1 Coaching?

Want results like these?  I invite you to see what working with a Success Coach can do for you.  You have nothing to lose and only your very best, amazing life to gain.

About the author, Leila Ansart: I help female leaders + entrepreneurs to work through the challenges that come with leadership, while finding fulfillment, freedom and support as they grow.

Start your journey with the FREE 5 Day Challenge to end your limiting self-talk.